CHILDREN TEARS - TROPHY FOR ADOPTERS

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You would say, that after fifty years of adoption research and all news and press releases adoption agencies would restrain them self to promote dramatic adoptions of children as objects of desire. But as we can observe at moments of disasters in impoverished countries, Western NGO's and adoption agencies emerge to operate so-called emergencies flights. Or 'babylifts' to get the most healthy and youngest infants out for their desire of parenthood.

What we know is, that it is of crucial importance for Adoptees and (birth)parents and families, that if the decision is made to adopt, the adoptions should be proceed with the utmost care and understanding of the sensitiveness of the topic. At least for the children and their parents and families. But promotional articles like one of the major Dutch national newspapers published last weekend, is a full force societal agreement that getting children for the desire of prospective parents, without focusing on the children as human beings who will develop them selves in a non-kin society, is accepted.

Because if adoption agencies and prospective parents applaud for the tears of children flown out of their country, awaited by a new nation, who sees them as a trophy to be shown, should loose their permits immediately. But as we know now, the emotions of prospective parents are more important and the tears of children are consumed as acceptable collateral damage. This idea fits in the perspective of some Adoptees, who say that international adoption is an act of Colonisation. Seeing this happening every week, it shows at least a close relationship to the paternalistic (pushed most of the time by childless women and media celebrities) and colonial thinking of ownership which links closely with slavery because, even when the body is saved by adopters, the mind must be capsuled or forget everything where it is connected with. And if it wants to set itself free, it must be done under the conditions defined by the community and society of the adopters. Full parental control leads in this case, full cultural and identity control.

The message to Adoptees in the above perspective is quite clear: don't cry, because the more you cry, the more adopters will rejoice about their profit and interpreted as a the most beautiful choir of tears as Adoption Agency NAS representatives stated in the NRC Magazine last weekend.