Rabu, 14 April 2010

UNICEF's position on Inter-country adoption

UNICEF has received many enquiries from families hoping to adopt children from countries other than their own. UNICEF believes that all decisions relating to children, including adoptions, should be made with the best interests of the child as the primary consideration. The Hague Convention on International Adoptions is an important development, for both adopting families and adopted children, because it promotes ethical and transparent processes, undertaken in the best interests of the child. UNICEF urges national authorities to ensure that, during the transition to full implementation of the Hague Convention, the best interests of each individual child are protected.

The Convention on the Rights of the Child, which guides UNICEF’s work, clearly states that every child has the right to know and be cared for by his or her own parents, whenever possible. Recognising this, and the value and importance of families in children’s lives, UNICEF believes that families needing support to care for their children should receive it, and that alternative means of caring for a child should only be considered when, despite this assistance, a child’s family is unavailable, unable or unwilling to care for him or her.

For children who cannot be raised by their own families, an appropriate alternative family environment should be sought in preference to institutional care which should be used only as a last resort and as a temporary measure. Inter-country adoption is one of a range of care options which may be open to children, and for individual children who cannot be placed in a permanent family setting in their countries of origin, it may indeed be the best solution. In each case, the best interests of the individual child must be the guiding principle in making a decision regarding adoption.

Over the past 30 years, the number of families from wealthy countries wanting to adopt children from other countries has grown substantially. At the same time, lack of regulation and oversight, particularly in the countries of origin, coupled with the potential for financial gain, has spurred the growth of an industry around adoption, where profit, rather than the best interests of children, takes centre stage. Abuses include the sale and abduction of children, coercion of parents, and bribery.

Many countries around the world have recognised these risks, and have ratified the Hague Convention on Inter-Country Adoption. UNICEF strongly supports this international legislation, which is designed to put into action the principles regarding inter-country adoption which are contained in the Convention on the Rights of the Child. These include ensuring that adoption is authorised only by competent authorities, that inter-country adoption enjoys the same safeguards and standards which apply in national adoptions, and that inter-country adoption does not result in improper financial gain for those involved in it. These provisions are meant first and foremost to protect children, but also have the positive effect of providing assurance to prospective adoptive parents that their child has not been the subject of illegal and detrimental practices.

The case of children separated from their parents and communities during war or natural disasters merits special mention. It cannot be assumed that such children have neither living parents nor relatives. Even if both their parents are dead, the chances of finding living relatives, a community and home to return to after the conflict subsides exist. Thus, such children should not be considered for inter-country adoption, and family tracing should be the priority. This position is shared by UNICEF, UNHCR, the International Confederation of the Red Cross, and international NGOs such as the Save the Children Alliance.

2008 and since, nothing much has changed 2010

Five to Twelve

Many people believe that the quest for intercultural, acceptable and humain child protection laws is one of a deep complicated and long breath, but nothing is less true as this conclusion. In a world were we can decide to cut and continue the 'lungs' of the earth in a few months and decide to go to war to a non-western country in less than nine months would not be able to create international multi lateral laws to protect children worldwide within a few years? What are the interests why we are not willing to protect the most vulnerable ones? What are the real stakes ? At least one questions remains. If these children and the parents were we talking about would be western citizens; would they been processed for adoption as fast and easily as we do now to others?

Intercountry adoption cannot be considered as a protection measure

According to the European Independent (Law) Panel:

Intercountry adoption cannot be considered as a protection measure. Other Member States protect their children and deal with the issues in-country. Out of home placement is available, guidance to parents given and family allocations provided. It is therefore not necessary to abandon children. Adoption is not a facility but should be a last resort of providing real orphans a permanent home. For other children we need to see upon strict and protected environment and regulations without focusing on adoption alone. Children need homes, but not because of adults want them to have one.

The Holy See

The Vatican to the Hague Conference, where a fundamental principle was confirmed, i.e., that:

"children are not isolated individuals but are born in and belong to a particular environment. Only if this native environment cannot, in one way or another, provide for a minimum of care and education should adoption be contemplated. The possibility of providing a better material future is certainly not, of itself, a sufficient reason for resorting to adoption".

Adoptees need to unite

The thousands of uncontrolled Adoption Agencies gathered around the world are knowledge centers with decades of information and experience. Billions of Euros have been passed the accounts since (each year around 1.5 billion euros) Are we really believing that these centers are willing to give up their position so easily after a all these years of 'helping' children. Even after some years of decline of adoptions rates ?

Instead of practicing the change into child protection programs they are hiring fellow Adoptees as a strategic social marketing tool to withstand and reject the opposition of other Adoptees who are trying to proof they have been mistreated, coerced or even have send away with treats by the same agencies as they have been adopted by, even after they proved to be sold for adoption with the phrase; "are you not better off" Prof. D. M. Smolin Law professor at Cumbarland School of Law in Alabama, said in an earlier radio interview about this better of issue this;"This 'better off' argument is like justifying a rape because it produced a healthy baby. When the rich of the world use their power and money to take away the children of the poor, it is a crime, not a humanitarian act.

Divide and Conquer

Many different visions and secularization of organizations for adoptees (most times co-managed by adoption parents) has been making it quite difficult to gather powerful and independent persons and adoptee organizations to create a shield against the powerful tactics of Politics, Adoption Parents, NGO's and Agencies who play the classical game of 'divide and conquer' with adoptees to make it almost impossible to create a solid foundation for a common place to meet. But there is a time that 'lost voices' and lost lives', nevertheless how 'successful' they might appear in society, will understand one day, that there exist a point of no return. A point which touches existential meanings of life. When they arrive at this crucial point, they need fellow adoptees who understands them and share their insecurities which comes along with adoption without being victimized or being forced into the roles of 'victims'. Organisations like the UAI does provide these services to adoptees by other fellow adoptees .

2010 UAI International Adoptee Conference

The UAI is preparing an International Conference on (Intercountry) Adoption in 2010. Organized and managed by adoptees. More information will follow ASAP. The UAI believe that we need to respect each others (different) point of views but at the same time understands that there is a certain urgency to make every adoptee in the world aware that international treaties and laws are in process to ‘locate’ and ‘free’ more ‘adoptable’ children for adoption worldwide. Hand in hand with diplomatic activities and trade agreements. Children become the so-called non-traceable pay offs for many countries worldwide. To stop these illicit Adoption practices adoptees need to understand that looking away will not help anyone; especially not the (future) children and their parents. Therefor we need to unite. Unite to become stronger, but at the same time to show that adoption is not a natural succesful intervention but a human created construction which has a price. Most times paid by parents and adoptees as first. We need to share and hear the different opinions about this issue. Thats why the UAI exis and invites you to come to the Netherlands for the first international and global conference on adoption. 'Adoption beyond better of and happiness'.

Black Pages in Adoption History

Understanding the background and history of international/transnational/ transracial/intercountry adoption makes us aware about the many black pages of adoption history and the trade offs of Corporate Bodies, NGO’s, Adoption Agencies, Churches, and Diplomatic Corps sacrificing lives of children, cultures and nations.

As mature adoptees we are a part of this chain and looking away makes us equally responsible for the next generation of adoptees who will ask the question which many of us probably did, or was afraid to, ask; ‘Was there no one who tried to protect me and my parents? ‘

The UAI believes that we have moral and personal obligation to others, knowing and understanding the (our personal) adoption history better day by day. We need to share and become active in the worldwide movement of intercountry adoption for others, the next generation but the most for ourselves.

Parents need Priority

Western International NGO's and institutes etc. have taken over the individual rights of human beings. They decide about life and death by creating or rejecting treaties and trade agreements to continue poverty and injustice towards them who needed the protection the most.

Adoption parents whom saying that they adopt obeying the rights and interest of the children are most times adopters who are eager to adopt due their childlessness or already adopted others children and became aware about the reality behind international adoption. Because of all the criticism the last few years, we see a change in approach in the adoption debate and developement.

Pro adoption lobbies are changing their tactics now and using 'spiritual and semi-philosophic arguments' saying 'that children are not longer a possession of parents and have a own life' and due regard free to decide on by others than their own parents. The effect of institutionalization of such point of view towards unprotected parents will lead to into more so-called adoption relieve centers and maternity homes close to adoption agencies - the so called pipeline or one stop shopping proces - should warn us and leave many question marks open regarding the (un)willingness to protect parents and their children.

Some intellectual and/or financial influential persons abuse the words of the fine Lebanese Poet and author; Kahlil Gibran on ‘Children’ from his famous work the Prophet. Many fight for the open gateway to have children as a backup when biological attempt and/or IVF will not work out. The last resort for children became a last resort for to be wish parents.

The need is there to prioritize the real interest. As long we take children away from their unprotected parents because of poverty of so called social inequality of culture - which many times started after the influence of western religion and colonial imperialism (Kim & Henderson) and later the devastating wars – we can not say that relinquishment is a voluntarily and a free moment of choice.

We should not focus on the rights of the children nor the treaties how to protect the ‘process flow’ of the adoption procedures but equip young people to fight against bureaucracy and legal injustice. Instead of that, we should focus on giving them sex education (preservatives) and help those parents who are thinking about relinquishment, the possibility of a free and independent qualitative legal and social council before deciding about adoption or other alternatives. Social acceptance and financial support must become the contextual approach within the inhabitance of the culture of the parents and their children.

International Politics should be warned

Children become the exchange rate of political parties and international dealings. The international community is looking and freezes the debates contentwise afraid loosing the possibility to get more children from allocated countries. The Chadian/France case of Arche de Zoe is just one example of many. Child trafficking for adoption is allowed and does not fit into any criminal law. Even ‘illegally’ taken children for adoption are processed in the Dutch legal system to be accepted for adoption just like many other (European) countries abroad do under the family of life article 8 of the ECHR.

Many adopters are looking for mazes in the international law and community to prevent problematic issues in the country of origin or their own country. Like we know nowadays that some Dutch couples are moved to France, Belgium and Germany to have a faster and less difficult adoption procedure as in the Netherlands. We call these tactic’s the ‘foreign routes’ or The France or German route’.

The Battle about children

The battle has begun or even existed for many decades now. Due the lack on healthy white babies in the west; the marketplace moved to Asia. But due regard of the high demand of babies for intercountry adoption from Asia, especially China en South Korea, who became super suppliers of children for the west, it's seemingly still not enough. Approximately 42.000 intercountry adoptions of last year came from + 100 different countries from all over the world. For example, the white babies (Russia, Ukraine) for the USA and their black babies for gay couples in Europe, like the Netherlands.

Return on Investment

Prices for the children depending on, age, skin color, health, color eyes and hair vary from 5000 euro till around 40.000 euro per child. Israel decided because of market and financial reasons to change their dollar rates for adoption into euros because of the exchange rate stability. In the Netherlands the adoption tax deduction discussion started because of the decision by the Dutch Tax Authority to decrease the possibilities. So you can see, Adoption is a process for and by many parties.

The Society of the Open Market

The biggest danger of the latest developments within Intercountry Adoption is social consumerism. What we cannot provide ourselves we can buy. Money talks and ethical or moral responsibility is a hard bargain if the wish for a child appears. Respecting the human wish to propagate to an automatic overlap towards intercountry adoption is a dangerous one in a world of an open market.

In many (professional) environments like; Gynecologists, Priests, Teachers and Pedagogues, adoptions have been advertised as a (almost natural) third option of receiving babies. This twisted moral concept/thinking should be contested with the realistic understanding that for the birth of each child there is still a man and a woman needed to conceive a child and thus there are parents. Nevertheless the way they got the child. They have a human dignity we should respect. We are not and may not be their judges or their ethical, social projection nor reflection. INstead we should be the society who should take care of them, shelter them when necessary. And if life forces them to make life influential decision, like adoption, they should receive all the support they need. Unconditionally.

UAI © 2008

Aantal adoptiekinderen bijna gehalveerd

In de afgelopen jaren zijn in Nederland minder kinderen geadopteerd. Het aantal adopties is tussen 2004 en 2008 bijna gehalveerd. Dit komt vooral door een kleiner aantal adoptiekinderen uit China.

800 kinderen geadopteerd in 2008

In 1995 werden in Nederland ruim 700 kinderen geadopteerd. Vervolgens is het aantal adoptiekinderen gestegen tot 1 370 in 2004. Daarna is dit aantal weer afgenomen. In 2008 ging het om bijna 800 kinderen.

Het aantal adopties is daarmee weer terug op het niveau van halverwege de jaren negentig van de vorige eeuw. Vrijwel alle kinderen komen uit het buitenland. In 2008 werden 30 kinderen geadopteerd die in Nederland waren geboren.

Buitenlandse en Nederlandse adoptiekinderen

Buitenlandse en Nederlandse adoptiekinderen

Vooral Chinese kinderen

Halverwege de jaren negentig kwamen de meeste adoptiekinderen uit Colombia. Sinds 1998 heeft China deze positie overgenomen. In 2004 werden ongeveer 800 Chinese kinderen geadopteerd en bereikte het aandeel adoptiekinderen van Chinese afkomst een maximum met bijna 60 procent van het totaal. In de afgelopen jaren is het aandeel kinderen uit Haïti en Ethiopië licht gestegen.

Adoptiekinderen uit de belangrijkste herkomstlanden

Adoptiekinderen uit de belangrijkste herkomstlanden

Aandeel Chinese jongetjes neemt toe

Tot voor kort werden uit China hoofdzakelijk meisjes geadopteerd. De daling van het aantal Chinese adoptiekinderen van de laatste jaren doet zich alleen voor bij de meisjes. Het aantal jongetjes neemt nog iets toe. In 2008 was het aandeel van de Chinese jongetjes 38 procent; rond de eeuwwisseling was dit ongeveer 5 procent.

Adoptiekinderen uit China

Adoptiekinderen uit China


Arie Eilbracht, Arno Sprangers en Han Nicolaas

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Kamis, 25 Maret 2010

Petitie Adoptiedossiers terug getrokken


Adoptievader Erlings trekt zijn petitie terug

Eerder meldden wij dat er een petitie was gestart om de bewaartermijn en kosten ter discussie te stellen. In communicatie met de betreffende adoptievader, heeft de heer Erlings ter kennen gegeven wegens de vele kritiek op zijn petitie, deze terug te trekken.

Zijn commentaar en meer informatie omtrent de hele discussie is terug te vinden op het:

Adoptie Trefpunt


De UAI zal binnenkort een landelijk onderzoek starten naar de kosten van adoptiedossiers en de huidige bewaartermijnen bij diverse instanties.

Mocht je als geadopteerde willen meewerken aan dit onderzoek, bijvoorbeeld jouw ervaring met het opvragen en de kosten aspect rondom je adoptiedossier, geef je op bij de UAI Onderzoekcommissie - Onderzoek & Ontwikkeling.

Earlier the UAI reported the petition against a long term preservation of adoptee/adoption files. started by an adoptive father. In communication with the person in this case, Mr. Erlings, he announced to withdraw his petition after a huge discussion which made him decide to stop the petition.

Minggu, 21 Maret 2010

Adoptieouders willen af van lange bewaartermijn adoptiedossiers ?

UAI Tegen de petitie voor het afschaffen van bewaartermijn adoptiedossiers

Adoptive Parents file a petition against long term storing and preservation of adoption files

Adoptive father, Stepan Erlings in the Netherlands says that the retention and preservation is not an responsibility of adoptive parents ant that they should not be held responsible for the costs of storing and preservation of adoption files of adoptees. Besides the period of 50 years should be valid enough as longest period to store the files. Due to this old discussion which has been opened again by this adoptive father adoptive parents sign and petition against the possible decision of the House of Representatives in the Netherlands to store the adoption files 100 years.

Vanwege de opnieuw opgerakelde discussie rond de kosten en bewaartermijn van adoptiedossiers van geadopteerden is er nu ook een ontwikkeling op gang gekomen die wij als stichting meer dan zorgelijk vinden. Een en ander heeft er toe geleid dat een adoptieouder, Stephan Erlings tegen deze bewaartermijn is.

Volgens de UAI heeft de adoptieouder in kwestie onvoldoende het belang en de mogelijke gevolgen van het niet kunnen verkrijgen van de persoonlijke gegevens, vaak nog het enige wat rest aan informatie over het land en familie van herkomst, begrepen.

De UAI wil graag weten of er voldoende animo bestaat om een reactie te organiseren tegen deze huidige ontwikkeling waarin geadopteerden worden gedwongen hogere kosten te betalen voor het verkrijgen van het dossier en tevens nu ook moeten 'strijden' voor het behoud van hun dossiers.

De UAI is van mening dat het voldoende bewezen is dat het persoonlijk dossier een grote waarde vertegenwoordigd voor de directe en ook indirecte betrokkenen. De praktijk laat tevens zien dat steeds meer geadopteerden met hun adoptie (verleden) bezig zijn dan ooit is gedacht. Alleen al van de 200.000 geadopteerde Koreaanse geadopteerden is reeds meer dan de helft terug gereisd naar het land van herkomst en is bezig of is op onderzoek uit naar hun verleden. Dit beeld geldt ook voor andere grote groepen zoals de geadopteerde Colombianen, Vietnam en geadopteerden uit India en vele andere landen van herkomst. Juist door het gebrek aan een verplichte bewaartermijn van dossiers of inzage van dit soort dossiers in dergelijke landen ontstaan er situaties die nadelig uitpakken voor geadopteerden en familie van oorsprong.

Dat er opnieuw een discussie wordt gestart over de bewaartermijn van dossiers, in deze nog wel, nota bene, door een adoptieouder in kwestie, op basis van kosten en een gebrek aan solidariteit voor het algemeen belang, tekent ons inziens het korte termijn denken van de opsteller en ondertekenaars van deze petitie.

De UAI is dan ook van zins om een eigen petitie op gang te brengen maar willen hierbij peilen of er meerdere partijen als ondertekenaars van deze petitie zouden willen deelnemen. Tevens zijn wij natuurlijk geïnteresseerd of je persoonlijk aan een dergelijke petitie zou willen deelnemen.

Aankomende week zullen we de informatie verzamelen om daarna een petitie online tot stand te brengen.

Voor meer informatie kun je contact opnemen met het bestuur van de UAI.

Hilbrand Westra - uai.hwestra@gmail.com
Joan Hansink - uai.jhansink@gmail.com
Eun Shil Boots - uai.esboots@gmail.com


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Aanvullende informatie: De Wereld is van Iedereen - Adoptieouder niet eens met petitie van Erlings

Selasa, 09 Maret 2010

Korea to Haiti:

Lessons in Overseas Adoption Corruption

By Jennifer Kwon Dobbs March / April 2010

Hundreds Of Thousands Still Displaced As Recovery Efforts Continue  In Haiti
Arrested by Haitian authorities for trying to cross illegally into the Dominican Republic with 33 so-called orphaned children, whose parents were later found to be alive, U.S. citizens and Idaho Baptist missionaries Laura Silsby and Charisa Coulter remain imprisoned in Port-au-Prince pending investigation of alleged child trafficking. Seeking to save the children in the wake of Haiti’s earthquake, Silsby and Coulter intended to place the children for adoption in the United States with Christian families despite Haitian law, which requires all adoptions to be finalized in the country. Dr. Jennifer Kwon Dobbs, a Korean adoptee and staff member of Truth and Reconciliation for the Adoption Community of Korea (TRACK), presents how adoption from Korea can offer a perspective about this scandal.

Laura Silsby and Charisa Coulter’s well-intended yet illegal actions remind human rights activists of other missionaries who, decades ago in Korea, portrayed overseas adoption as an education opportunity to poor and vulnerable parents seeking the best for their children. However, lessons from Korea – the world’s biggest, oldest, and longest-running overseas adoption program – remain largely unknown and unlearned.

Court Hearing Held For Missionaries Suspected Of Taking Kids Out  Of Haiti

The Daily Mail reports that Silsby’s missionaries knocked on doors and handed out flyers saying they wanted “to help children who have lost their mother and father in the earthquake or have no one to love and care for them” and inaccurately claiming that “they had the Haitian government’s permission to take 100 children abroad to the Dominican Republic.”

Korean War Orphans

This is like a reprisal of 1950s' post-war Korea, where Western missionaries and relief workers in Korea drove around in the ruins of Seoul and other big cities and collected "adoptable" children, promising the parents education in the West. Such misrepresentations of overseas adoption as an education opportunity continue to discourage unwed mothers, “who currently provide 89 percent of Korea’s children sent abroad each year,” from choosing to rear their own children.

Silsby and Coulter’s other tactics of recruiting Haitian children from impoverished families and falsifying the children’s identities as orphans, through irregular or missing paperwork, read like pages out of Korea’s adoption history, which the Korean government has yet to acknowledge, reconcile, or include in history books.

"Not only do these children have families back home, but their parents incorrectly assume that the children remain theirs."

Since 1953, Korea’s overseas adoption program, which established overseas adoption and served as a model for sending nations such as Haiti, has sent approximately 200,000 documented and undocumented children overseas to more than 15 receiving countries, many of which no longer have adoption programs of their own due to welfare systems that support single mother households. A G-20 and OECD nation with a GNP ranked eleventh in the world, Korea persists in sending 1200-1400 children per year and, until the earthquake, eclipsed Haiti in the number of children annually sent to the United States.

Haitians Struggle For Food And Shelter Amidst Vast Devastation

Such figures, however, can change during an emergency event. Researcher Dana Sachs observes how “the Haitian children’s airlift follows a pattern we've seen before during times of international crisis. Disaster strikes. The media broadcasts photographs of suffering children. Responding to a concerned public, political leaders bypass accepted protocols by speeding the process of adoption. And then we find out that a significant number of those children might actually have family back home”.

Not only do these children have families back home, but their parents incorrectly assume that the children remain theirs. Viewing overseas adoption as study abroad or access to healthcare and resources, Haitian parents willingly relinquished their children to Silsby. As reported in the Wall Street Journal, 36-year old Jean Anchello Cantave gave his 5-year-old son Ancito to the Americans because “the chance to educate a child is a chance for an entire family to prosper." Mr. Cantave’s views are widely held by other Haitian families who relinquished their children by simply putting their children on Silsby’s bus.

What does full disclosure and sufficient counseling entail for parents who consider surrendering their children? As Sachs observes, overseas adoption follows on the heels of crisis. A family’s loss is another family’s gain. Decisions made under duress and with scant information do not protect a child from trafficking, unlawful adoption, or good yet misguided intentions.

Gov. Christ Meets With Haitians At South Florida Repatriation  Center

As in Mr. Cantave’s case and in others like him, who are the vast majority, parents do not understand that overseas adoption forever severs their kinship and places their children in families located abroad. Not only is Mr. Cantave’s child more than likely not returning to him as an adult, but his child, assimilated into his adoptive family’s culture, may not even view Mr. Cantave as family. If his child seeks to reunite, more than likely his child will be culturally estranged from him and will require a third party to facilitate cross-cultural communication.

Did Silsby and Coulter explain these realities to Mr. Cantave and to the Haitian families who quickly entrusted their children to the missionaries' care for better lives overseas?

While overseas adoption has usually meant placement in affluent families that can afford $25,000-30,000 in adoption fees – money that could easily keep a Haitian family intact – it shouldn’t be viewed as a chance at a better life. Overseas adoption erases identities and forever estranges families for generations. In Korea, which has sent three generations abroad, even the children of adoptees have begun to undertake family searches for their grandparents, aunts, and uncles. Their searches suggest that the loss of family due to overseas adoption persists beyond the adoptee.

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Minggu, 28 Februari 2010


Unmarried mothers coming out of isolation

During her college years, Chang Ji-young once dreamed of becoming an unmarried mom voluntarily in protest against the unfair prejudice towards them here.

However, two years ago, when the 34-year-old former business consult became pregnant by her former boyfriend, she first considered getting married to him.

"Facing the reality was totally different from vaguely assuming it," said Chang, who is currently raising her daughter alone after her boyfriend didn't keep the marriage promise.

Her parents and brother tried to persuade her to get an abortion or to give up the baby for adoption. But she resisted and her family turned their backs on her and the child.

Until then, she was confident about the future because she had 10 years of overseas working experiences as well as fluency in English.

"I felt frustrated most when my expectations were shattered," she said.

"During a job interview, they asked why I raise the child alone and who the father is. In Korean society, it's impossible to avoid such questions, even though they are extremely private matters. Then, all I got was rejections."

Chang is one of the Korean unwed moms who must endure a lifetime of poverty and disgrace after deciding to raise their children alone.

According to the Ministry for Health, Welfare and Family Affairs, about 6,000 to 10,000 babies are born out of wedlock every year in Korea.

They accounted for 1.6 percent of the total births, the lowest level among OECD member states. While Japan has the second lowest 2.1 percent, the figures in the United States and France are 38.5 percent and 50.4 percent, respectively.

Fearing financial and social struggles, 96 percent of unmarried pregnant women have abortions, and of those who choose to give birth, 70 percent give up their children for adoption, the state-run Korean Women's Development Institute reports.

In the United States, only 1 percent of unwed moms choose adoption, according to the U.S. Health and Human Services Department.

"Unmarried pregnant women, desperate to seek help, contact adoption agencies. However, they persuade the mothers to give up their children rather than encourage them to raise the kids. Without knowing what's going on exactly, they agree for adoption," said an unwed mom and the director general of the Korean Unwed Mothers and Families Association, who requested not to be named.

Of the total 2,556 babies born to unmarried women and then adopted in 2008, 1,250 found their home abroad, the Health Ministry said. Since 1958, Korea has sent more than 200,000 children abroad.

When it comes to welfare services, Korea still legs far behind other developed countries. Childcare, in particular, is one of the biggest obstacles for working moms, regardless of their being married or not.

However, while married or divorced women receive support from their expanded family members for childcare and other family affairs, such support is absent for unwed moms, making them more vulnerable.

"Unwed mothers come to have less choices. Because the children can be looked after only at nursery school, they have to find a job near the place and can't work overtime at night," said the director general of the unwed mothers' association.

Teenage pregnancy and, more recently, rampant abortions have emerged as serious social problems in Korea. And the issue of supporting unwed moms just started gaining public attention.

Last year, the government first earmarked a budget of 1.6 billion won ($1.4 million) to provide assistance to unwed moms aged under 24.

However, the mothers and activists point out that the financial assistance should be given for the babies, regardless of their mothers' age.

When she started a campaign supporting unwed moms three years ago, Kwon Hee-jung, coordinator of the Korean Unwed Mothers Support Network, said she could not meet the mothers anywhere.

"I didn't know whom I was speaking for," she said.

However, now, it's great for me to see moms work and speak for themselves."

A growing number of unmarried mothers, mostly those in their 20s and 30s, are deciding to raise their children recently. In 1984, the rate was only 5.8 percent. However, the figure surpassed 30 percent currently, according to the women's policy institute.

And they started joining forces and speaking out for the rights of unwed moms and their children.

Choi Houng-suk, a 39-year-old hairdresser, is one of them. Along with other three unmarried moms, she opened last year an online community "Miss Momma Mia," which is aimed at sharing information and brining up the issue of unwed moms to be discussed.

Their campaign was linked to the foundation of the Korean Unwed Mothers and Families Association on Dec. 19. With some 40 members joining currently, the nation's first association of unwed moms aims to become a non-government organization in March.

"I'm not an activist, just a mother of my son. I am still hesitant to reveal myself in public," Choi said.

"When the media portrays our problems sensationally, I sometimes want to quit doing this. But I can't. If I don't take any action now, the social prejudice will be prolonged, affecting our children finally."

Fortunately, Choi is one of the rare unwed moms who receive childcare costs from their children's birth fathers. She had tried not to inform her pregnancy to her former boyfriend. But her doctor said that he also has the right to know.

Even though related laws oblige the fathers to share the rearing expenses, most of them ignore the duty. The average amount reported is less than 500,000 won per month.

Most of all, mothers themselves give up the money, fearing that the fathers could ask for the custody of their children belatedly.

"It is more likely that the fathers who have a better job as well as family support win a lawsuit. However, recently, the court also rules in favor of the mothers who have never abandoned the kids and try to find a stable job. So, the mothers need to seek the financial assistance more aggressively," Choi said.

In 2008, three years after the birth, her family finally accepted Choi and her son.

"When I became an unwed mom, my family was the first to abandon me. But they finally accepted me. And that support encouraged me a lot more than anything else," she said.

Adding to the efforts of the unwed moms' association is the support from Korean-born adoptees who recently returned home to help the mothers who face the same difficulties as their birth mothers did decades ago. They help promote the issue to the public as well as educating and taking care of the kids of unwed mothers.

"There are a lot of campaigns ongoing to promote adoption. They say 'Bear abandoned children with love.' However, the mothers had never abandoned the kids. They made an unavoidable decision for the better future of their kids," Choi said. "We hope adopted people to understand the cruel situations their birth mothers had to face."

(jylee@heraldm.com)

By Lee Ji-yoon